Right, so isn’t this the part where everyone starts to think of all the things they want to change, improve or transform in their lives? Or maybe, for some of us, it’s the time of the year when we’re resting up for the last big party tonight? Either way, December 31st always brings with it a sense of finality, end and resolution. But more than anything else, it seems to bring with it a manic obsession, we all too often find ourselves prisoners of, to make New Year’s resolutions!
You know those lists we find ourselves making whether mentally, just in our mind, or literally on a piece of paper? Then, we find ourselves all hyped and pumped up as we hang it on the kitchen refrigerator only to find it on the floor or worse in the garbage three months into the New Year? Yes, I’ve been there and done that! How often have we all promised ourselves that “this year” would be different. Yes, been there and done that as well, too!
As a Coach, this is the time of year I find my phone and inbox overloaded with requests on how to make the most of the New Year? So this year, I thought I’d share the best resolution I’ve learned to appreciate thus far in life. It’s proven the most effective, promising and guarantees results. Are you ready? Here goes: 2010’s New Year’s resolution is to be resolute not to have one! Interesting, isn’t that? Mind blogging for sure! But no New Year’s resolution is the new resolution of 2010! Think of it as the new “black”.
Sometimes we can become too focused on the road ahead, the future, what has yet to come, that we miss the glory of appreciating, celebrating and embracing our present moment. There lies in the mystery and the magic of what we call life. Sometimes, I suspect, we enjoy the sensation of being busy making those lists. Sometimes, I suspect, we enjoy the “thrill of the chase” in creating these elaborate plans that we miss the boat of actually living life moment by moment.
“Life is not measured by the number of breathes you take, but by the moments
that take your breath away.”~ Alex Hitchins from the movie, ‘Hitch’
Living in the present requires no effort really. It is garnering the wisdom of years passed to embrace and appreciate all that you have become and who you are today. It is realizing and accepting who you are, presently, not over obsessing about who you think you should be. It’s enjoying that moment of presence you allow yourself. This does not mean, nor does it give “license”, to becoming lazy, unmotivated or even absent minded in pursuing our dreams.
Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become your character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.
The truth is your year, your future, your life boils down to the moments in your day, every day, in which you allow yourself to be utterly amazed and left breathless. Your future is your now, not tomorrow. If we learn to live in the present, then our lives unfold miraculously, effortlessly and beautifully to the amazement of our mortal minds.
So, opposed to making a list and checking it twice (wait- wasn’t that Christmas?), resist the urge to reach far into the future or the past and try sitting still in the present and simply living, loving and laughing today. Stay a while you might just find you like it! Do this every day avoiding the temptation to worry, over analyze or stress about the past or the future. In other words, take it one day at a time. Each day BE that dream you hold in your heart. If you do this everyday, you’ll be surprised at how easily the desires of your heart find you patiently waiting for its arrival!
Happy New Year